How Tweens Can Get Their Moms to Say Yes More Often — Without Lying About What They Really Want

No doesn’t always mean no.

Sometimes no means I haven’t had time to think it through. Sometimes no means not yet. And sometimes no really means no, not now, and not before you’re eighteen, living on your own and responsible for all your decisions.

Here’s how to make it easier for your mom to say yes.

Most moms want to say yes.

It feels like a relationship booster when moms can say yes to their tweens.

When I was growing up, I heard no a lot. I couldn’t seem to figure out the secret of getting a yes. Seventeen years ago, when I became a mom for the first time, I vowed to be a ‘yes’ mom.

Here’s the secret.

It’s all in the timing.

If your mom is tired, hungry, or irritable, their default answer will be no.

This is even true for judges determining parole for convicts. The judges recognized that being tired impaired their decision-making skills. So, rather than make poor decisions later in the day — they simply said no.

Tip #1: Ask your mom if it’s a good time to ask her something

If your mom says no, respect that. Ask her when would be a better time to chat.

Tip #2: Get to the point

If you’re hedging around the question, she’ll wonder if you’re telling her the whole story.

Tip #3: Have at least two solid reasons ready

If you show your mom you’ve thought through your request, she’ll be more likely to see your perspective.

Sometimes she’ll still have to say no, but a little planning on your part will make it easier for her to say yes more often.

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